You wanna know what’s wrong with this world? We’re obsessed with the wrong things.
Let me talk to the women in the trenches. The stay at home Moms like me who work hard every day to keep a clean house, feed their kids healthy foods, and always put their best face forward even though they’re not feeling it.
Being a Mom is hard. Seriously, why is there not a license for parenting?
Every 18-year-old should take a two year course on parenting and child care, write an exam, and do a one month practical that would involve living with a sleepless newborn, a tantruming toddler, and a saucy teenager.
If you make it through all of that, you would be given a license and the privilege to procreate.
That’s right, no sex until you have passed this course.
Because sex is the one and only thing that makes babies, aside from artificial insemination.
But that’s not where I’m going with this.
Yes, parenting is hard. Yes, having an education in child discipline and time and money management would be useful. Not to mention how useful a few years of relationship education would be. How to interact with your spouse after you have children. Because, before you have kids, it’s pretty much one long honeymoon. You’re free to disagree with me, but this is me speaking from my personal experience.
Moms, Social Media is Our Number One Enemy.
In the last few months, I have come to hate Facebook. And Instagram is on the Naughty List.
You see, I have an easier time unfollowing people on Instagram than I do on Facebook because Instagram has been used mainly for my business.
On Instagram, people focus mainly on the pictures. Yes, you can brag or whine and take selfies all you want, but I’m not going to stop and read what you wrote unless I am in the mood to do so. It’s easier to skim through Instagram than it is to skim through Facebook.
My Instagram feed has hardly ever contained pictures of women posing half naked, begging for approval or showing off only what they want me to see. Like Tuesday Transformations, Amazing Before and Afters, or Flex Fridays.
I don’t want to be caught up in outward appearances. Six pack abs after having children is impressive — to some — but there is more to life than having a “perfect” body.
A perfect stay at home Mom Body is one that houses a loving soul that cares for her children.
You can be in a wheelchair, you can have any kind of physical or mental challenge.
If you love your kids and you do what you can to grow them into responsible, caring people, that’s all that matters.
I don’t care what size you wear. I don’t care what kind of challenge you give gravity.
I don’t care if you are now bigger or smaller than your pre-pregnancy body.
I care about your heart.
Are you happy and are you able to give your happiness to others?
Because, if you’re not happy, you’re not able to be the best Mom you can be.
If you’re obsessed with your weight or your size, you’re not happy. You’re wishing for something you don’t have. You’re obsessed with something that won’t mean much twenty years from now.
Yes, I want you to be healthy and eat healthy, delicious foods. Yes, I want you to exercise.
But I want you to do those things because you love yourself enough to take care of yourself.
Exercising to burn off calories takes the fun out of physical activity.
Dieting takes the enjoyment out of food. Yes, all food.
You begin to feel guilty for eating “bad” food or skipping a workout.
Seriously, do Moms need to feel more guilt?!
Back To Social Media.
If you struggle with your self worth, start by looking at who and what you follow on social media.
Is it helping you feel better about yourself? Or do you end up feeling worse about yourself after being on Instagram or Facebook, etc.?
Do you follow people who base their worth on their physical appearance? Or do you follow people who celebrate the lives they live in whatever body they have?
Stop. Evaluate who you follow.
If it makes you happy, enjoy with moderation.
If it makes you feel bad about yourself, take a break. Unsubscribe, unfollow, and focus on what you can do for you.